Salon: Is “baby fever” killing my chance to have kids?
Fertility matters, yes. But biological clock extremists are preventing women from enjoying healthy relationships.
Rachel Kramer Bussel, DAME
"That’s why, when the cultural noise about why we should start thinking about our fertility in our twenties got so loud this year, I was thrilled to read Savvy Auntie founder Melanie Notkin’s book Otherhood: Modern Women Finding a New Kind of Happiness. In some ways, it’s a sad book, because there are so many women in it who, I’m pretty sure, would have made excellent moms, but for various reasons, haven’t gotten that chance so far. But what made it so valuable to me is that it took into account all the other factors, aside from our aging eggs, that go into the decision to have kids or not. As Notkin writes, “Often, a woman’s involuntary childlessness, such as mine, is misinterpreted as having come about by choice. In fact, I’ve always envisioned motherhood as part of the romantic wholeness of marriage and family—and in my mind, it still is inseparable from love. Without one, I haven’t had a chance at the other.” Exactly."