Melanie Notkin is quoted by writer Heather Robinson in this piece on what happens in dating when you think it's going somewhere... and your date "disappears." 

“At what point is it ‘ghosting,’ and at what point is it, ‘He/she is just not that into you?’” said Melanie Notkin, author of “Otherhood,” a memoir and journalistic report on single, childless women in U.S. cities including New York and Los Angeles. “We notice ‘ghosting’ when we’re interested; if not, we might call it ‘relief.’ Putting a label on it, and understanding it only as having mal-intent, serves no other purpose than to feel badly about oneself … Sometimes it’s best just to let it go.”

Read more: https://forward.com/schmooze/413170/the-trouble-with-ghosting-in-jewish-dating-this-halloween/